I find myself going around in circles, stewing in negativity, and feeling consumed by whatevers bothering me.
So, what gives?
Well, it turns out thatas with so many other things in lifecomplaining is best done in moderation.
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Too much can be counterproductive whilebottling in our feelingscan be harmful to our health.
Why Do We Complain?
As such, it can help to reduce feelings of stress.
Our urge to vent also has evolutionary underpinnings, according toDr.
Mary Poffenroth, a biopsychologist and faculty member at San Jose State University.
Human survival and social cooperation over our species' history depend critically on our capacity to express discontent.
Benefits of Complaining in Small Doses
When done intentionally, complaining can bring about several benefits.
Problem-Solving and Perspective
Complaining in small amounts may help us formulate solutions to problems.
Additionally, complaining sometimes elicits support from others, who can offer new perspectives and ideas, says Farina.
The human connection that complaining can engender is also protective against stress.
Motivation for Change
We can also bring about change when we complain in small doses.
Farina says thatall emotions serve a purpose.
Potential Pitfalls of Excessive Complaining
What happens when our venting goes too far?
Turns out, it can do a lot more harm than good.
When reinforced over time, this negative worldview can become our default way of thinking.
Recap
Basically, we condition our brain to think a certain way, through time and repetition.
Tip: She urges us to first and foremost limit the time we spend complaining.
She also recommends setting limits around who, what, where, and how we complain.
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