Thinking “Im not good at anything” often indicates that you are experiencing low self-esteem or self-doubt.
If this key in of thinking becomes dominant, it can be challenging to move past it.
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This thought often comes when you compare yourself to others.
You might imagine yourself being good at something momentarily but then immediately think of how you could fail.
They dont necessarily express the reality of your life.
Understanding what may be causing these thoughts will help you figure out how to move past them.
Low Self-Esteem
Low self-esteemis probably the most common trigger of thinking you are not good at anything.
Your self-esteem encompasses your self-image and how you view your achievements and abilities.
It also reflects how you think that others perceive and respond to you.
Its important to understand that your perception of yourself and your abilities isnt static.
you could have periods of negative self-image and times of positive self-image.
In other words, self-esteem is something that can be improved.
Studies have shown that higher self-esteem and self-image can have positive impacts on life experiences.
Here are some ideas.
Thats why it might seem like everyone is full of successes and talents.
Simply put, people with low self-esteem arent very good at acceptingcompliments.
If this is true of you, you might consider a little exercise.
Note each time someone attempts to compliment you and see what happens if you accept it.
Yes, you might initially feel that you are faking it to some extent.
First, write down your thoughts and feelings to help identify them.
Understanding whats going on with you is the first step to starting to feel better.
Taking a few minutes a day to just “spill” your thoughts on the page can be therapeutic.
Keeping a gratitude journal isnt complicated: just write down one thing you are grateful for each day.
It can be something as simple as your morning coffee, or your childs laughter.
Just commit to writing it down.
Try Therapy
Therapy is a great way to work on your self-esteem and self-image.
Cognitive-behavioral therapyfocuses on identifying negative thoughts, learning techniques for retraining thought patterns and adopting a more positive mindset.
Your gifts may be less obvious or “showy” but are still just as meaningful.
But a statement like this is just a thought you are telling yourself.
It comes from a place of low self-esteem and is not your reality.
Identifying yourtalents and strengthsmight take a while, but they are there.
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