One second, youre clinking glasses of espresso martinis over gossip.
The next youre exchanging clipped text messages and what you think might be slight barbs.
But that’s where we come in.
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What Is Passive-Aggression?
Their refusal to directly engage with what’s bothering them leads to harmful behavior.
Even when the method is subtle, being on the receiving end of passive-aggression hurts.
You notice it when you observe your glass was half empty rather than half full after an interaction.
Backhanded complimentsoften have this effect.
Whats The Difference Between Passive-Aggression and Miscommunication?
The biggest difference between passive-aggression andmiscommunicationis intention.
you’re able to usually tell one’s intention by their tone.
If their tone seems genuine, then their intention typically reflects that.
A person engaging in passive-aggression behaviors, however, will have a frustrated or slightly exasperated voice.
And if you’ve got the option to’t gauge someone’s tone or intention, ask them questions.
Dr. Brook recommends the following:
What Are Some Passive-Aggressive Red Flags?
There are ~many~ passive-aggressive behaviors fromghostingto constant excuses.
Here are some of the most common:
Inconsistent Communication
It’s the sign of all signs.
When theirwords don’t match their actions, chances are they’re being passive-aggressive.
She calls this behavior veiled hostility.
Their Face Is Unfriendly
There arenon-verbal cuesto it, Camper says.
Are All Types Of Passive-Aggression Equal?
Then, there are others who are acting passive-aggressively because of circumstances.
Context is really important, she adds.
Your friend might be acting out because they have a big stressor in their life.
Consider their situations before confronting them, as it could indicate their intentions.
When Is Passive-Aggression Worth Confronting?
If you value a relationship deeply, it can be worth confronting ones passive-aggressive behavior in a positive manner.
But only if it’s safe to do so.
How Can You Positively Confront Passive-Aggressive Behavior?
Talking to a passive-aggressive person can be a huge headache.
No one wants to hear I’m fine repeatedly when everyone knows they’re!
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