Hes funny, charming, and acts like he really cares about you.
Is it because of how he flirted with the female server several times throughout the night?
Or the women you ran into at the bar who seemed a little too comfortable around him?
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Is it jealousy or is something else going on?
Are you special or does he act like this with tons of women?
If you think you’ve fallen for a womanizer, read on to find out what to do.
What is a “Womanizer”?
Theyre charismatic and experts at flirting.
They could pursue dozens of women in the same night, all at their fingertips.
Expert researchers have even suggested that the main purpose of dating apps isnt to help people meet in person.
Instead, they exploit the users by turning their desires towards the app and focusing on gaining matches.
When someone gets a match, they feel immediate social gratification and self-worth validation.
This entices them to keep using the app.
Sabrina Romanoff, PsyD
Some men particularly struggle to feel worthy and valid on their own.
“Some men particularly struggle to feel worthy and valid on their own.
They may use dating as a way to outsource self-worth and seek validation.
Some men who are players tend to objectify women.
Some people might be exploring different parts of themselves that emerge in different relationships.
Others might be avoiding the vulnerability of committing to a partner or partners, explained Romm.
First, youll need to see if theyre a womanizer or genuinely charming.
Romm shared that there are a few signs to look for.
Someone genuinely interested will hopefully behave in ways that help you to feel safe and valued.
Theyll also pursue a genuine connection.
Should you keep dating them?
This depends on what youre looking for.
you could embrace these types of men because they can be a lot of fun to hang out with.
They can make you feel good about yourself.
However, you shouldnt expect a lot from them beyond casual dating.
Dr. Romanoff explained that unfortunately, many men are skilled at faking genuine interest.
However, all is eventually revealed with time.
This is why it is important to take your time to slowly get to know someone.
The cracks in the facade they portray will eventually be revealed and crumble.
[I]t is important to listen more than you talk.
Romanoff advises you to listen to your body.
The emotions youre feeling can provide a lot of guidance if you allow it.
Its normal to feel somebutterflieswhen youre excited about someone new.
Datingcan be a rollercoaster of emotions.
Most of us dont come out unscathed.
The most important advice is to know yourself, what youre looking for and your priorities.
Thomas MF, Binder A, Matthes J.
The psychological influence of dating app matches: The more matches the merrier?New Media & Society.
Published online April 20, 2023:146144482311615.
