However,talking about sexat all can be challenging for many people.
There are many benefits to period sex, but that doesn’t make it any easier to discuss.
Reduced Stress and Improved Sleep
Sex can be beneficial for our well-being andreduce stress.
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Since so many menstruators feel less than ideal on their periods, this can be a great relief.
Lastly, menstruation can be disruptive to sleep, and sex leads to improved sleep.
These are three of the most common.
Period Stigma
Period stigmais the discrimination faced by people who menstruate.
It is also often referred to as “period shaming.”
Despite our best intentions, we may harbor negative feelings or discomfort around the subject.
Approaching two challenging andemotional subjects togethercan be daunting, but it can be done with courage and care.
These worries can then compound your discomfort in bringing up the idea.
So, how should you do that?
You might be surprised at how well your partner responds!
or telling your partner, “I’d love to have sex with you while I’m menstruating!
What do you think?”
Particularly, Dweck mentions that “some partners may see blood and worry they are causing pain or injury.
Providing reassurance that this is not the case is key.”
Be sure to approach the subject with care and sensitivity.
It’s OK if your partner needs time to consider this.
Do your best to be supportive and understanding no matter the answer they give you.
Respecting their boundaries is an important part of maintaining a healthy relationship.
Notice how you feel in response to their request.
Does it make you uncomfortable?
You may not know how you feel about it yet, and that’s perfectly fine.
Communicate honestly with your partner about how this idea makes you feel.
Express any discomfort or concerns you have.
If you do decide to have sex while menstruating, express your needs to your partner beforehand.
Communicate and prioritize whatever makes you feel most supported.
Mentioning this to your non-menstruating partner may helpalleviate their anxietyabout the blood involved in period sex.
They are able to hold a larger amount of blood than a tampon can.
you’ve got the option to lay a dark towel down on the bed underneath you both.
Towels should be enough to collect any blood present, and can then be put in the wash.
There is also the option to have sex on a waterproof bedsheet.
It is nothing to be ashamed of, and should only be skipped if that is your physical preference.
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