Sometimes it can be downright awkward.
Problems with sex and sexual satisfaction can cause serious relationship distress.
Unfortunately, that’s why many of us avoid talking about it.
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Fortunately, there are some strategies that can help making talking about sex with your partner a lot easier.
By knowing them, you’re likely to find “the sex talk” worth the effort.
With a little planning, you could make these conversations less awkward and more productive.
Open communication can lead to greaterfeelings of intimacyand a stronger relationship.
In fact, talking honestly with your partner might increase your overall satisfaction with your relationship.
Ask your partner if they’ve used condoms and other safety measures when engaging with other sexual partners.
Likewise, be honest about your own practices.
If either of you hasn’t practiced safe sex, discuss appropriate testing for everyone involved.
Talking About Your Desires
Your comfort level is an important part of having a satisfying sex life.
Discuss what makes you feel aroused and desired.
Try talking about yoursexual fantasies.
When you would rather not engage, remember to communicate with your partner honestly and sensitively.
There are many variables to consider when it comes to sex drive including your physical and mental health.
When to Talk About Sex
There is a time and place to discuss sex with your partner.
Start Slowly
Have a “soft start” to the conversation.
Begin with your goal to feel closer and connected with your partner.
Skip criticism, and focus on things you both can do to make your sex life more fulfilling.
Talk about what you both might enjoy and fantasies you have.
If you do decide to introduce some of these into your relationship, research your options together.
Express Yourself
Talk with one another about expectations, fears, desires, and concernsand be honest.
Needs and desires can change over time.
Check in with your partner often.
Explore your sexual styles with one another.
All couples have these styles or moods at some point.
If you and your partner have different sexual styles, open and honest communication can help.
Talking through your differences can help you understand and address the differences, ensuring that you both feel satisfied.
You and your partner might also considersex therapyif you need help.
Takeaways
“Good lovers are made, not born,” as the saying goes.
It’s something you and your partner should take part in regularly from the beginning of your relationship on.
A healthy sex life is a great gift, and it’s to be enjoyed and nurtured.
Be honest and open with your partner.
Seek medical help to determine the cause.
Your comfort is important, and a good sexual partner should be understanding and supportive.
The more frequently you discuss sex with your partner, the less awkward it will be.
Choose a neutral place free of distraction and interruptions, and avoid criticism.
Approach it as you would any other problem in your relationship.
Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings and avoid criticism.
If your partner seemsinterested in marriage, it’s important to discuss expectations regarding sex.
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