Do you find yourself doing extreme things to secure your relationship at the slightest hint of trouble?
But anxious attachment doesnt necessarily mean that any relationship you enter into will be doomed.
The combination is key.
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Read on to learn more about anxious attachment and what you could do to make your relationship stronger.
They will do anything in their power to prevent that rejection or abandonment.
The best thing you’re able to do is to talk to your partner about your triggers.
However, the onus is not just on your partner.
Recognizing your own triggersespecially since many of them might not be objectively reasonableis just as important.
In that case, it might feel hard or even impossible in the moment tocommunicatethose feelings effectively.
Start with talking about them after the fact, when you feel safer.
Dr. Marschall has some other suggestions that may help you with the consequences of your anxious attachment style.
She says, Of course, everyone’scoping skillsvary based on individual needs.
First of all, establishinghealthy boundariesis a must.
Your partner should also do their best to be consistent.
Amy Marschall, PsyD
First, remember that their attachment style is not about you!
Attachment styles develop from past experiences, often from early childhood.
This is something that can change with appropriate support, including therapy treatment.
Your partner should also never dismiss your concerns.
While the threats to your relationship may not be real, your fears about those threats are.
Help your partner understand this so that when you do get triggered, they can be supportive.
Encouragement from your partner to keep working on yourself can make the challenge easier.
Attachment styles develop from past experiences, often from early childhood.
This is something that can change with appropriate support, including therapy treatment.
Second, she says, communicate clearly.
Express your affection as well as your own needs.
What you’re free to Do Together
Communicate, communicate, communicate.
Talking regularly about your relationship and both of your needs within that relationship can only help going forward.
Dr. Marschall suggests that Working with a therapist to communicate effectively is a great first step.
Be deliberate with expressing affection.
But there are things you and your partner can do to mitigate these fears.
