Kick the monotony and rekindle that spark
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It starts out little by little.
You cancel a date night with your partner or spouse to stay late at work.
Soon, theres no kiss goodbye when one of you leaves the house.
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You look up one day and feel completelydisconnected from your partner.
All couples have times where they dont feel quite as connected.
How Do You Know You’re in the Roommate Phase?
People talk about the seven-year itch.
It usually refers to a period of restlessness or discontent in the seventh year of marriage.
The seven-year itch is not the only issue that can leave marriage partners feeling like roommates.
The situation can also take a toll on yourmental health.
Being able to pinpoint the issue and figure out if youre headed toward the roommate phase is another.
Or do you feel like you wont get the response you need from them?
Does it feel safer to just not ask them for things that you want or need?
Is it easier to do everything yourself rather than ask for your partners participation?
Own the fact that for you, something is missing.
When you start to feel likeyour needsarent being met in your marriage, it can cause you to withdraw.
But avoiding your spouse, or pretending the tension between you isnt there, wont help the situation.
In fact, itmakes it worse.
Its important to address the situation head-on.
Once you acknowledge the problem, you might both start working toward a solution.
Steps to Rebuilding Your Intimate Connnection
Growing apart and feeling like roommates didnt happen overnight.
And neither will reconnection.
It takes time and effort to work toward a fulfilling, engaging, intimate relationship with your spouse.
Both you and your spouse need to discuss whats happening between you.
Luckily, there are lots of easy and practical actions you’ve got the option to take.
Ask follow-up questions, so your partner knows that you are invested and connected with them.
Physically, it’s possible for you to make a point of touching your partner each day.
Small touches go a long way in rebuilding your connection.
With the busyness of life, carving out time to spend with your spouse takes effort and intention.
Learn to handle issues in a healthy way.
Every relationship takes work.
Cleveland Clinic.Don’t Let the “Seven-Year Itch” Sabotage Your Relationship.
