In the age of social media and information overload, its never been easier to check up on people.
But theres googling someone, and then theres full-on stalking.
The latter is a violation of a person’s boundaries, and a traumatic one at that.
Even so, there is hope.
Though you may feel isolated, there are resources out there for you.
What Does It Mean to Stalk Someone?
Stalking is persistent, unwanted, intrusive harassment in person or online.
Though it can happen to anyone, its more commonly perpetrated against women.
Stalking doesnt just come from strangers.
For men, its about 1 in 18.
What Are Examples of Stalking Behavior?
Stalking covers a broad range of behaviors, from requests for connection to outright threats.
The stalker feels entitled to your attention and space, explainsMonica Amorosi, a licensed psychotherapist in New York.
Some examples of stalking behavior include:
What Are Signs Someone Is Stalking You?
First and foremost, pay attention to your instincts.
Our gut often senses things that our mind has yet to process.
If you feel in your intuition that something is off and a situation isnt safe, listen to that.
How do you know if someone is stalking you?
Maybe you’ve been bumping into the same person or seeing the same car everywhere.
How Does Stalking Impact Your Well-Being?
Stalking can cause intense fear andtrauma.
The effects can also be physical.
Stalking triggers your fight-or-flight response, dysregulating the nervous system, says McMann.
What Should You Do if You Suspect Someone Is Stalking You?
Validate Your Experience
Being targeted by a stalker is one of the scariest and most unsettling feelings.
Its normal to try and rationalize or convince yourself it isnt happening, says Amorosi.
Its important to take any stalking behavior seriously and act quickly.
Let People Know
While it may be uncomfortable, inform those around you of whats going on.
Share your location on your phone with someone close to you for safety purposes, suggests McMann.
Document the Evidence
Keep a running log of every attempt to reach you.
Screen shot, save, and download all forms of contact.
If you see them near you, take pictures.
If they are reaching out to others, document it.
The more information you might collect, the better.
Once your digital space is secure, check your home and car next, she adds.
While law enforcement has limited recourse unless a threat is made, any paper trail helps.
Even if you run into barriers, keep pressing on.
Dont let the police turn you away, says Amorosi.
If they are not responsive to you, document that and go to a different department.
I always recommend survivors seek professional treatment to help in their healing process.
Overall, build up a web link of support around you, says Amorosi.
TheStalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Centeralso has some great educational materials.
Everyone has the capacity to heal, but that requires getting help and support as soon as possible.
