Who Gets to Keep the Space?
If youre renting, your lease arrangement will play a big role in this.
If your nameison the lease, then you will have every right to remain on the property.
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As an alternative, you may decide to sign the lease over to someone else or sublet.
Would you be able to cover the costs of repairs and maintenance?
If so, talk to a real estate professional about your options.
What to Do About Children?
Try your best to minimize the disruption to your childs sense of stability and normalcy.
While changemay be more disruptiveto your children, everyones health and safety are the priority.
ensure that you reach out for support to ensure that the process goes as smoothly and safely as possible.
If you’re gonna wanna make custody decisions, youll want to seek legal advice.
What About Shared Pets?
For example, you could pick a neutral place (like a city park) to have weekend visits.
it’s possible for you to also think about your schedule.
Maybe you have a flexible job, but your partner will be stuck at the office until after dinner.
Youll want to keep this in mind as you start exploring the best way to leave after breaking up.
That way, the bulk of the move can be done while you are safely away.
If the split is mutual, youll be able to make a cleaner break.
take a stab at keep emotions to a minimum when youre deliberating, even in an emotionally charged atmosphere.
You might venture to split everything equallyright down to the half-open carton of milk in the fridge.
Both approaches can cause more strain than is necessary, making an already difficult situation harder.
To simplify and preserve your emotional energy, you may just need to let some things goliterally and metaphorically.
attempt to think in practical terms.
An objective third person may simplify the process.
Objects that have more sentimental than practical value can be harder to part with.
venture to look at it from a practical point of view.
Would it be hard (or expensive) to move the bed?
Will you have a bed where you are going, or could you easily buy a mattress for yourself?
If you took the mattress, would your partner be left without a bed?
A breakup may only involve two people, but moving will usually require some helping hands from others.
Making the transition to the next phase of your life doesnt have to be one you undertake alone.
During this time, lean ontrusted friendsand family for support.
You’ve grown used to living and spending most of your time with your partner.
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