7 helpful ways to work through those hard-to-shake feelings.
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Crushing on someone is at once incredibly exhilarating and frightening.
Will they like you back with the same level of intensity?
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Do they notice you looking their way or hear you gushing about them to a friend?
When youre together, do they feel that same feeling ofbutterfliesor longing that you experience?
It can seriously hurt when they don’t.
These deep feelings ofinfatuationare normal, very real, and completely valid.
We cannot help who we develop feelings for, nor can we control the strength of those feelings.
But how do you know when it’s officially time to move on?
And whats the best way to get over a crush once you decide thats the best path forward?
Here are some signs its time to get over a crush.
Also acknowledge traits that you might not like.
Sit with those and examine them to help bring the crush into a more balanced perspective, says Goldman.
Avoid or Minimize Contact
You know the phrase out of sight, out of mind?
It rings true when dealing with ahard-to-shake crush.
The less theyre in your direct viewor even your peripherythe easier itll be to move on.
confirm youre eating well, sleeping well, and getting some movement into your week, adds Goldman.
Also, know that you’re not alone in these deep feelings.
Studies have shown that feelings of unrequited love are very profound.
Additionally, be kind and compassionate to yourself around self-talk, says Goldman.
Combat that with positive and kind supportive talk about the self.
Meet New People
Chances are youve learned a lot about yourself from this crush.
Now could be a great time to branch out and meet new people.
Check your library for group meetups, or other community calendars, Scott says.
Maybe these people will become friends, or maybe youll discover aromantic spark.
Either way, its a win for you!
Say No to Being Someones Maybe
Remember, you deserve someone who is equally excited about you.
Investing time into a relationship thats unlikely to go nowhere is a recipe for prolonged heartache.
