How to Deal With Rejection

Sometimes, rejection is harsh, and the rejecter might be rude or cruel in their rebuff.

Learn about types of rejection and how to cope with rejection in a healthy way.

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Why Rejection Is So Painful

Emotional pain can be intense and can even manifest physically.

In other words, we can literally feel something like rejection as physical pain.

Sometimes we experience specific rejection as universal rejection.

This is a form ofcognitive distortionthat makes the rejection seem larger than it really is.

It can be difficult to cope with and cause strong emotional responses.

Rejection comes in many tweaks and in different forms.

When many people think about rejection, they first think about romantic relationships.

And during the dating process, rejection may occur at various times in romantic relationships.

Here are some instances of relationship-related rejection:

Not all relationships are romantic.

For many, social rejection can be as significant and often even more painful than romantic rejection.

Here are some examples:

While unpleasant, this is OK!

Here are some healthy and unhealthy ways for coping with and growing from rejection.

As you go through life, you will inevitably encounter rejection.

Understand that you might overcome these painful feelings and move forward.

Remember that you are not alone, and your experience is valid.

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