How to Cope When You Are Alone on Christmas

We have come up with three great ways to cope with being alone at Christmas.

First, you’re free to address your mental state and how it is contributing to your loneliness.

One way to practice gratitude is to write down three things you are grateful for on this day.

Maybe you already feel grateful, but you are plagued by negative thoughts and feelings.

You may begrievingover your losses or wondering why you don’t have better social connections.

For example, if you feel energetic and the weather is decent, go for a long walk.

If you feel social, consider attending a church service to be in the presence of others.

You could even meet new people that way if you are willing to put yourself out there.

Below are some other ideas to keep you from focusing on the fact that you are alone this holiday.

Say ‘Yes’

Perhaps you are alone this year because you turned down invitations.

Know that it’s OK to call those people back and say “yes.”

This may include wearing a face covering and practicing physical distancing.

In fact, research shows that practicing kindness may reduce your tendency to avoid social situations.

Do you have online friends?

Do you have long-distance relatives?

Host an online Christmas by setting up a Skype, Zoom, Google Meet, or Facebook group.

If need be, you’ll also be keeping your vulnerable loved ones safe as you socialize virtually.

If being alone on Christmas is unavoidable, plan a day for yourself.

Buy something online to treat yourself, cook your favorite foods, or plan a movie marathon.

Plan for a better future.

Maybe youmask your feelingswell or just seem uninterested to others.

Use whatever means necessary to impress upon your doctor the severity of your symptoms.

Call a friend, family member, or a helpline.

There are people who would love to hear from you and trained volunteers waiting to support and counsel you.

For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.

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