Verywell / Jiaqi Zhou
Let’s face it.
Whenit comes to dating, certain things can be a little hard to overlook.
Dealbreakers such as inconsistency, poor communication, one-sidedness, disrespect, and conflicting values are common.
Verywell / Jiaqi Zhou
Just be careful that you’re being fair and not turning unrealistic expectations into relationship dealbreakers.
Where Do Dating Dealbreakers Originate?
Many new relationships are doomed from the start because past experiences spill over into the next.
So let’s take a look at some of the most common dating dealbreakers.
Poor Communication
In all aspects of life, communication is the primary source.
Without communication, nothing can prosper.
In fact,ghostingis probably the loudest way to say you don’t care about a person.
Has that person shown any interest in your career?
Do they know your favorite hobby or color?
The little things matter.
Your eyes can often tell you what your ears cannot.
So you have to teach people how to treat you.
That means you have to set thestandardand stand firm in it.
If you say no calls after a certain time and they call anyway, don’t answer.
If you aren’t comfortable in any situation,speak up for yourself.
But, when you’re dating, give a shot to remember that the other person is human too.
You are responsible for yourself.
Many dealbreakers arise because one or both parties aren’t expressing how they truly feel.
Stereotyping someone is the quickest way to get them to shut down and lose interest.
Placingstigmason a person is not only unfair but dehumanizing.
Questioning Everything They Do or Say
Are you one to question everything?
Do yousecond-guessanything a potential partner says?
Because you’ll never believe anything they say.
You’ll either overanalyze their words or think they’relying to you.
Being Too Idealistic
Do you fantasize about a person before you know them?
You know, believing that they are a certain way before you actually know who they really are?
But, of course, this only leads to disappointment.
When you’re considering your dealbreakers, it’s important to explore them as realistically as possible.
So, it’s important to choose them wisely.
No one is perfect, and no one will check off everything on your list.
In fact, you don’t even check off everything on your own list!
Remember to stand firm in the things you won’t tolerate but know when to compromise.
Speaking of compromising, how can you figure out if something is a dealbreaker or not?
You know when something really bothers you and when something is tolerable but just kind of annoying.
Substance overrules all when it comes to dealbreakers.
If you’re dating someone of high quality, then shallow, superficial things can be overlooked or corrected.
The best thing you’ve got the option to do when dating is to be observant.
Don’t look for dealbreakers.
In fact, don’t look for anything.
Instead, hear exactly what is being said and pay close attention to actions.
Walk into every situation with a fresh perspective, leaving all past experiences at the door.
So, choose your dealbreakers wisely because you never know who’s out there waiting for you!
Just be sure that you are doing what’s right for you.
But be careful to check that you are seeing the value in others as well.
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