This in turn can make a partner feel defensive and attacked.
“The blame game often starts with triggers that are self-reflexive.
Edward Ratush, a sex therapist and Board Certified Psychiatrist.
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When trouble arises and our instinct is to blame our partner, that makes them unable to trust us.
In turn, that can lead toresentment, and ultimately, the failing of a relationship.
Let’s look at what they are.
In turn, this can create a lack ofcommunication.
But if you’re going to be blamed for wanting change, you’re unlikely to do that.
Because of that,one partner may distance themself emotionallyfrom their relationship.
This may be conscious or unconscious, and it may be ongoing or only for brief periods of time.
Resentment can build slowly or quickly, and it can continue to grow over time.
Unless action is taken to stop the blame cycle, abreakupcan easily be the end result.
There’s a straightforward solution to the blame game: taking responsibility.
you might try a different method of communication than you have before, such as learningnonviolent communication.
This is an excellent option for learning communication techniques together.
According to Ratush, you get out what you put in.
“Commitment to the process determines a couple’s success,” he says.
Momentum in relational work is real and powerful.”
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