Sexual intimacyinvolves engaging in sexual actions with someone with whom you feel connected.
Sexual intimacy isn’t just funit’s actually good for your overall well-being.
It improves sleep, boosts relationship satisfaction, and is associated with less depression and anxiety.
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you’re free to learn how to be more sexually intimate with your partner (and yourself!)
Get Into Self-Pleasure
Being sexual and being sexually intimate aren’t just related toforeplayand intercourse.
Taking time to learn on your own what you like can help you in partnership, as well.
They may also give you ideas on things to do with your partner.
Not to mentionmasturbation can help you feel empoweredandhelp your mental health.
And self-pleasure also doesn’t even have to involve touching your genitals or an orgasm.
It can include just touching and getting comfortable with your own body.
It might feel corny, but sometimes it doesnt happen otherwise.
In fact, it may even keep the sex more top-of-mind by having it on your calendar.
“Have experiences that will bring you emotional intimacy,” says Cooper-Lovett.
Plus, something like seeing your partner master a new skill or wear something different can be sexy.
The definitions of what comprises outercourse are broad, so use your imagination.
Put It In Writing
Cooper-Lovett says she loves the idea of something liketalking dirtythrough text messages.
“It’s easier if you’retextingto say what you want,” she says.
One of you might be dealing with depression and/or some key in of health issue.
As unromantic as thatmaysound, its a surefire way to know youll get it in.
If youve lost your physical intimacy, odds are, you might have lost some emotional intimacy as well.
Start by making an effort to really reconnect with your partner.
Check in with themsee how theyre doing.
What if theyre not feeling the same way?
However, odds are, they are feeling it too.
If youre wanting to bring up introducing a particular kink, speak up.
But be inclusive and transparent, says Dr. Cooper-Lovett.
If one of you isnt comfortable with the idea of it, try meeting in the middle.
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