Tell Me More About the Burnt Toast Theory… What happened to me in 2013 is what made me a personal believer in this theory.
I waslaid offand then had a grueling and demoralizing job search.
An introduction from a friend helped me score an interview to run social media for my dream company.
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As it’s possible for you to probably guess, I didn’t get that job.
I was devastated, and it felt like an even bigger setback at the time.
By then, I was already at my dream job.
Had I gotten that first “dream job,” I never would have gotten the actual dream job.
Not only that, I managed to dodge a major crisis by working for the less controversial brand.
The burnt toast theory doesn’t apply to traumas.
It’s more relevant to things like breakups or job loss, in my view.
We can’t control these setbacks, but what we can control is how we respond to them.
Learn how the burnt toast theory can help you through the hard times.
(Sweet, beautiful carbs would never do anything to hurt me.)
We can’t control these setbacks, but what we can control is how we respond to them.
Jokes aside, when we arecatastrophizing, we are blowing a situation out of proportion.
Sometimes a piece of toast is just a piece of toast.
Sometimes you will realize that what you thought you wanted wasn’t what you really wanted at all.
It Can Help You Move Forward
So often, my clients are looking forclosurein a given situation.
And I don’t blame themmany endings leave us with more questions than answers.
They want to know why they were dumped or why they lost that job.
They often believe that having the answer to that question is what will help them move forward.
The problem is that, in doing that, you’re stuck in the past.
