What Is Spoon Theory?
For the most part, they do not need to worry about the effects of their actions.
So for my explanation, I used spoons to convey this point.
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Additionally, the number of spoons a person has might vary on different days.
A disabled person, on the other hand, has a limited amount of spoons orenergy.
Emma lives with chronic illness as well and learned about Spoon Theory before receiving some of their diagnoses.
The Spoon Theory analogy is simple and easy to grasp and raises awareness about disabled communities.
Andrea says that Spoon Theory helps her be moreself-compassionate: Its not that Im not trying hard enough.
Im out of spoons, and its not my fault.
He noted that he sometimes explains his spoons as spell slots with members of his Dungeons and Dragons group.
He says, Ill tell my friends Im all out of spell slots and need a long rest.
They understand this best of all.
Additionally, the Spoonie community can unite under the common experience of functioning with limited spoons.
Because disability can be highly isolating, fostering connection and community is important.
Life as a Spoonie
Living with chronic illness comes with challenges.
Spoonies have to be aware of their energy levels and needs.
Emma states that they have to attend to their fluctuating levels and identify patterns to predict their needs.
Additionally, Emma notes a history of burning out every few years due to going beyond their limits.
He states, I rest when I no longer have a choice and have started accruing points of exhaustion.
Its challenging being so limited in a society which expects so much from individuals.
Spoon Theory not only helps with awareness of disabilities, but it can also help Spoonies better understand themselves.
Societal messages can lead to internalizedableismand negative self-talk about ones abilities and energy levels.
Reframing these challenges through Spoon Theory can improve self-compassion and self-understanding.
Additionally, it can help Spoonies understand their limitations and ration their available energy more effectively.
Resources for Spoonies
Community and connection are essential for any group.
Unfortunately, many community events and public spaces are not accessible to disabled people.
Those with decision-making power in the community can push for accessible, safe public spaces for Spoonies.
Meanwhile, many online communities have emerged for Spoonies.
You might not feel like one space is a good fit for you, and that is OK!
You deserve support and connection from people who understand what you are going through.
Some Spoonies use visual aids likeSpoonie Pinsto represent their current capacity and energy levels.
This can make it immediately clear to their loved ones how much capacity they have in the present moment.
When someone communicates that they are approaching their limit, believe them.
Different people feel supported in different ways.
Ask your loved one what they need from you.
Some might want help self-advocating with the health system, and some might not.
Ask, listen, and respect the response, and do your best tobe a good ally.
The Spoon Theory Written by Christine Miserandino.
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