Verywell / Bailey Mariner
Many people wonder how much sex they should be having.
Justhow important is sex, anyway?
Its risky to citestatisticson sexual satisfaction for a few reasons.
Verywell / Bailey Mariner
This is because much of the data is from self-reported information.
We really arent 100% confident about the accuracy of the results.
People actually wish to know if their relationship is healthy.
They are wondering if they are enough for their partner or if their partner is enough for them.
They are wondering if too much or, typically, too little sex is at issue in their relationship.
Sometimes they are worried that their relationship may be in jeopardy due to this concern.
It can also be thatbothpartners are displeased with the frequency in which they engage in sexual interaction.
The good news, however, is that marital satisfaction is not simply a function of sexual frequency.
In fact, married couples are looking at thequalityof their sexual interaction and not just thequantity.
This is often due to the design of the experiment or the way in which data is collected.
After that point, efficiency drops.
Furthermore, they reported less enjoyment of sex.
We know sexual satisfaction is better at certain stages of relationships.
We also know that life gets in the way.
It is up to each couple to set their own personal standard and be okay with it.
This is what is most critical when considering sexual satisfaction.
Its not about the number, but your experience of that number.
For one, assess your relationship outside of the bedroom.
Are you achieving intimacy there?
Physical, mental, and emotional intimacy are imperative to your connection with your partner.
These work for some and not others.
With testosterone levels highest in the morning, that may be an option for some.
Because intimacy and sex are intertwined, sometimes this is all a couple needs to get back on track.
Remember, its not the number that is important, but the meaning of the question.
Staying married is hard enough in the context of todays challenges and lifes distractions.
Those challenges tend to migrate into the bedroom.
One person’s desires cannot trump anothers.
Instead, it must be a constant discussion so both parties feel safe discussing their feelings and desires.
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