Navigating these friendships with patience and compassion
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Friendships come in all forms.
Lets take a look at what to keep in mind.
These early experiences teach the individual that they cant rely on ortrust others, which makes them hyper-independent.
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An avoidantly attached person views dependency on others as weakness and may avoid beingvulnerable.
We can start by considering our own attachment style.
Avoidant tendencies may heighten anxious tendencies in other insecurely attached individuals, says Urrutia.
As in all relationships, its important to note why youre friends with someone.
Ideally, your friends make you feel positive and comfortable.
Here are a few things to bemindfulof when navigating these relationships.
Often, they can appear more distant and detached within the friendship.
If we feel like reaching out, we should absolutely take initiative in doing so.
As with any relationship,communicationis key.
Sanders suggests having friendship temperature check-ins every now and then.
venture to understand that its not personal.
Were just trying to protect ourselves the only way we know how!
However, if you feel your needs are never being met it might be time to move on.
Its important to diversify our support system so we dont over-rely on one person, Bogdanovic says.
Focusing on Personal Growth
Ultimately, we can only control one person: ourselves.
Making sure our own needs are met can help us better show up in all of our relationships.
Working on our personal growth should always be paramount.
Friendships with avoidantly attached individuals can be nourishing, supportive, and fulfilling.
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