How an Anxious Attachment Style Can Impact a Relationship

“…are you still there?”

Verywell / Alison Czinkota

Dating is hardits always been that way.

But the current age of online dating has created fresh challenges and triggers.

Throw in ananxious attachment styleand it becomes even tougher.

Anxiously attached people are hungry for connection and will also be apprehensive of its reliability.

Every new match or compliment provides a little bit ofdopamine, which simply reinforces the cycle.

I went through a string ofcodependent relationshipsbefore learning I had an anxious attachment style.

Mindful Moment

Need a breather?

Looking back, I was being so irrational.

And that guy was someone that I didn’t even want to be my boyfriend.

But I cared so much about making him like me."

Anxious attachment can also develop as a result of early dating experiences.

“When it comes to romantic relationships, people with anxious attachment desire connection and love.

One of the best-known books on attachment theory,“Attached,” by Rachel S.F.

Its a vicious cycle.

If you suspect you may have this attachment style, it’ll help to talk to alicensed therapist.