Let’s talk about the two types of language people to use to discuss adoption.
Over time, two types of language were used to describe adoption-related topics:positive adoption languageandhonest adoption language.
As a result, adoptees have a higher likelihood of dealing withtrauma-related symptoms.
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As a result, adoptees may receive some damaging messages.
What Is Positive Adoption Language?
Years ago, the language surrounding the adoptive process was very stigmatizing.
Positive Adoption Language
Positive adoption language aims to correct previously-used negative adoption language.
What Is Honest Adoption Language?
To paint a more accurate picture of adoption of the adoption process, honest adoption language was created.
Critics of honest adoption language believe that calling birth mothers natural mothers implies that adoptiveparentsare unnatural.
Inclusive Adoption Language
There are people who take issue with both positive and honest adoption language.
So, some people advocate for more neutral language known as inclusive adoption language.
This key in of language allows individuals to determine which language choices resonate with them the most.
Positive Adoption Language vs.
Honest Adoption Language
Below is a chart that compares positive and honest adoption language.
Surrendered, Lost to/Taken for Adoption
Birth Son/Daughter/Child vs. Son/Daughter/Child or Lost Son/Daughter/Child
Son/Daughter/Child vs.
Adopted Son/Daughter/Child (in adopted families)
Was Adopted vs. Is Adopted
Adoption Triad vs.
Adoption Transaction
Meeting/Making Contact vs.
In Reunion
A Word From Verywell
Some of these phrases and beliefs may be contradictory.
If you are an adoptee, use the language you prefer.
it’s possible for you to speak to amental health professionalif you’re having any difficulties related to adoption.
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