However, we may have taken communication by text too far.
What Exactly Counts as Fighting Over Text?
In an in-person conversation, many cues can tell you that a conversation is heading in the wrong direction.
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However, that may be harder to discern via text.
One way to know you’re shifting into argument mode is by paying attention to your emotions.
If you’re experiencing thephysical signs of anxiety, chances are you’re heading into a more-than-minor disagreement.
Additionally, texting is, by nature, a short form of communication.
We do it mostly over our mobile devices, which aren’t designed for multi-paragraph communication.
Lastly, fighting over text can be anything that mirrors the terminology we use during in-person arguments.
Text, on the other hand, has no tone.
Everything is flat in writing, so a sarcastic comment or a joke may be misconstrued as an insult.
The one way you’re able to avoid coming across as insulting is by using emojis or GIFs.
This can create lighter energy.
However, your words can still be misunderstood.
Through text, we may have no idea if they’re crying or not.
Sending an eye-roll emoji or a “shaking my head” one may be hurtful.
When Fexting May Be Appropriate
Fighting over text isusually a bad idea.
it’s possible for you to screenshot the message and not respond.
However, this is the exception, not the rule, and text fighting is still better avoided.
In some situations, you may even want to turn it off.
The act of disengaging is often a calming one.
Once you feel calmer, you might address the situation from a more rational place.
Keep in Mind
Arguing happens, but it doesn’t need to happen via text.
For those who have challenges meeting with a therapist in person, there are plenty ofonline options.
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