The term cuckold has its origins in the cuckoo bird and its behavior during nesting season.
Here are a few facts about the practice, ways to approach it with an intimate partner.
and what yto consider before introducing cuckolding to your relationship.
Verywell / Alex Dos Diaz
Who Might Be Interested in a Cuckold Relationship?
It’s possible that those who enjoy consensual non-monogamy might consider a cuckold relationship.
A cuckold relationship may sometimes involve one partner being present while sex happens.
In other cases, a person may derive happiness from knowing their partner is experiencingsexual pleasurewith another.
Here are the most common reasons you might like the practice.
Someone who enjoys compersion might find cuckolding attractive.
You might find this attractive.
Note, however, that this behavior might be just a sexual fantasy or preference on display.
The thought of doing something society judges as “taboo” can be exciting for some.
Being able to enjoy a cuckold relationship can be a sign thatno-holds-barred communicationexists between you and your partner.
He likely encourages his partner to have sexual adventures with other men, almost in confirmation of her desirability.
He may even watch while his wife is in the act.
In some cases, this partner may be exposed directly to others for their sexual satisfaction.
Candaulismleans more toward a voyeuristic interest, whereas cuckolding involves actual physical contact.
How to Try Cuckolding
Cuckolding can be an uncomfortable subject to bring up.
Here are a few ways to ethically introduce the possibility of this practice with your partner.
Begin With Honesty
Broach the conversation gently, clarifying the reasons you want to try this.
Although you could hope for the best, your partner might not be as enthusiastic as you.
They might even feel insulted.
So, a rejection of your proposal is also a real possibility.
Then again, your partner might be very interested and show some curiosity.
Honest communication is key; be prepared to answer questions and address worries.
Maybe you start by talking about cuckolding during foreplay or while being intimate with each other.
See how your partner feels if you flirt with another person in front of them.
You might try seeing how you feel about virtual or phone sex with a third party.
These small steps can help you both ease into the idea before your first cuckolding session.
When looking to set up this relationship with a partner, be sure to go over the following.
Practicing safe sex and completeopennessabout sexual history are important.
Changed Feelings
Anger, jealousy, and sadness commonly spring up in a multipartner arrangement.
The reasons are as diverse as the people who have them.
Trust, honesty, and respectcornerstones of any successful relationshipare even more important in a cuckolding arrangement.
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