Other times, the opposite occurs, and we just can’t stand their new boo.
That’s because this information informs how you handle the situation.
Let’s look at the two main reasons you might not like this person.
If you find them rude or insensitive, that can be a sign of a larger issue.
Friendships can help protect others from abusive situations.
She explains that “understanding what is being triggered in you is paramount.
Of course, your friend might not be open to hearing your concerns about her relationship.
Friedman says to ask if your friend even wants to discuss this, before diving in.
She recommends asking your friend if they have space to hear about how you’re feeling about their relationship.
And if they say no, she says that answer should be respected.
Do You Want to Like Them?
The next question to ask yourself is how willing you are to move forward with this situation.
Chances are that you don’t want to ruin your friendship over this person.
To do this, Friedman says you should “Invest in really getting to know the person.”
The better we know someone the easier it is to access compassion and understanding for them.”
This may be the case with your best friend’s partner.
The good news is that it doesn’t have to mean your friendship ends over this issue.
“Its absolutely possible tomaintain your friendshipif you dont like your friend’s partner,” says Friedman.
By staying open and honest with your partner, the two of you together can navigate this complex situation.
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