But that’s a lot to ask of a partnerand a relationship.
We also share ways to help your partner meet their needs, furtherstrengthening your relationship.
But first, it’s helpful to be clear about what emotional needs are and why they’re important.
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What Are Emotional Needs?
These cravings include a need for affection, conversation, honesty and openness, and family commitment.
All humans have emotional needs, and when those needs are met, we experience emotional fulfillment.
“To hope that another human can meet our needs is asking too much of anyone.”
Dont look at where your spouse needs to change.
Look to where you gotta change.
Dont have expectations of your spouse.
If you have expectations, place them on yourself.
That said, theiremotional supportis still critical, even if they can’t meet our every need.
They both feel valued and validated, and they often experience higher levels of relationship satisfaction.
, This process comes from the field ofdialectical behavior therapy (DBT).
“It is important to prove to yourself that you are stronger than you think you are.”
Strive to be of help when your partner asks for it.
Consider what your partner wants and values.
Is it a home-cooked meal?
A special dinner at a fancy restaurant or a quick burger at a fast-food eatery?
Fixing that leaky faucet or loose door handle?
An affirming word oraffectionate gesture?
Instead, be direct.
Ask for what you need.
Do you want change, understanding, or compatibility?
Whatever your need, asking for it directly will greatly improve your chances of getting it.
To be direct, you must be clear in your own mind about what you need.
This means being emotionally present during difficult situations.
Having your emotional needs involves sharing and caring for your partner.
A person who feels loved, cared for, and appreciated is far more likely to reciprocate in kind.
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