Small lies about finances can lead to even more damaging behaviors in your relationship or marriage.
A stash of money in the bottom of a cookie jar probably won’t destroy your relationship.
But realizing that your partner cheats on you financially could be the beginning of the end of your relationship.
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In an already troubled relationship, financial infidelity could be what makes you decide tocall it quits.
Read on for an examination of financial infidelity, why people do it, and how to cope.
Another survey described in a 2011 article,Is Your Partner Cheating on You Financially?
Knowingly irresponsible behavior may cause guilt and embarrassment, so the person attempts to cover it up.
Deceit may also occur because they fear their partners reaction to the truth.
Create an Open Dialogue
Don’t bury your head in the sand.
It’s time to have a difficult andserious talkabout your finances with your spouse or partner.
Tell them about anyfeelingsyou have about lying or being lied to about your finances.
Your concerns, guilt, anger, panic, sense of being betrayed, embarrassment, helplessness, etc.
you’re gonna wanna be heard by your partner.
Have a weekly discussion about the state of your finances.
Make a decision to behonest, open, and to keep your promises.
Accept your responsibility for bringing financial infidelity into your marriage.
Be realistic about what can and can’t be done to salvage your financial situation.
Set up separate checking accounts along with a joint account.
Decide together how much you’re able to each deposit in the personal accounts and a joint account.
It is important that you both agree that those funds are yours individually to do with what you want.
Goudreau, J.Is your partner cheating on you financially?
31% admit money deception.Forbes.com.
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