But what happens if the family part of the equation negates the other two?
Tensions can run high in families during the holidays, and often results in lots of family drama.
Heres how to deal with it.
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Be very clear with your family upfront if there are certain subjects that are taboo for you.
Dont want to talk about work?
Let your family know that, and dont give in when they pressure you about it.
Dont feel like dealing with theconstant questions about your love life?
Be clear that this subject is off-limits.
Clear boundaries keep you emotionally safe.
If things do escalate to an uncomfortable level, you could try somede-escalation strategies.
If there is nothing you might do to quell the drama, let it go.
make a run at find a safe place to be or safe people to be with.
And if you cant?
Its OK to leave, even for just a little while.
Stuck at a bad holiday gathering?
Here are actionable things it’s possible for you to do to cope.
Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques
Take a moment to pay attention to your body.
Where are you carrying tension?
venture to relax the parts of you that feel the most stressed.
When you find tension, tell yourself to let it go.
Seeking Support
When dealing with family drama, having asupport systemis of the utmost importance.
Dont have a family member whom you trust?
Remember that it’s possible for you to always reach out to friends for support.
What did you learn?
Maybe you learned that certain family members are safe havens for you, while others trigger you.
Maybe you learned that you need regularly scheduled breaks in the middle of holiday parties.
All of these things are OK, and are very helpful to know in the future.
But now, lets say the holidays are over, and you survivedbarely.
What can you do torecover from holiday stress?
What do you need so you can attend to your psychological needs during this time?
Let yourself take time alone if you need it.
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