By its narrowest definition, however, unconditional love can be difficult, if not impossible.
Part of the problem with unconditional love in relationships is the lack of understanding of what it means.
It is also sometimes referred to as compassionate love.
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This suggests that unconditional love may be rewarding without receiving anything in return.
Research has found that giving and receiving love plays a vital role in psychological well-being.
you oughta know that the person is committed to loving you unconditionally no matter what the future brings.
The problem is that this definition inromantic relationshipscan break down under several conditionsand for good reason.
Because of this, the definition of unconditional love in romantic relationships needs to be expanded.
Unconditional Positive Regard
Unconditional love in romantic relationships is more akin tounconditional positive regard.
You love your partner because of their unique traits and qualities that attracted you to them.
It’s why you love them and not another person.
The question becomes, if they change, at what point is love withdrawn?
True mature love should come with no strings attached.
Think about unconditional love as the expression of our kindest self.
it can be maintained even if a relationship does not survive.
You might know couples who still love each other but are no longer together.
Unconditional love can be unhealthy, damaging, and destructive if it exists with no boundaries.
Unconditional love should not be painful.
But we live in a conditional world, and relationships do end.
We all have different tastes and needs, which can change over time.
One thing is certain: Relationships completely lacking unconditional love are unlikely to succeed.
One way to tap into this is to be mindful of the present moment.
If you struggle with this, consider practicingmindfulness meditation.
This practice will help you slow down and become aware of your relationship needs.
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