When you don’t keep your word in a relationship, it can impair trust and communication.
This can erode intimacy and connection, which can ultimately threaten the future of your relationship.
There is a multitude of potential reasons behind this and it differs for every individual.
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Inability to Say No
Some people don’t know how to be honest and say no.
Control Issues
Still, others have issues withfeeling controlled.
You both need to follow through on your promises without being constantly nagged or reminded to do so.
Not being a person of your word is also damaging to you personally.
They were people who could be counted on no matter what.
Be upfront and honest, even if you feel like you might be letting your partner down.
It’s much, much worse to break your promise later.
Don’t make promises you’re able to’t keep.
Again,be honestabout your reasons.
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Excuses are meaningless and are often a cover for the real reason you didn’t choose to follow through.
Simply apologize and reiterate that you will keep working toward being a dependable partner.
Think about how every time the person does this, your disappointment and trust in them deteriorate more.
Is that the kind of person you want to be?
Put yourself in your spouse’s shoes.
That’s when you’ll start to experience just how beautiful an interdependent relationship can be.
Having and being a trustworthy partner is a priceless gift it’s possible for you to give each other.
And you’ll feel good about yourself, too.
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