When done right it can get you moreturned onand lead to moreintimacywith a partner.
This is more likely if you have limited experience or knowledge in the practice.
We’ve got step-by-step instructions, tips, and even examples to improve your skills.
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What Is Dirty Talk, Exactly?
Dirty talk is any form of sexually charged or explicit speech that is intended to arouse and seduce someone.
Research on dirty talk usually divides it into two categories, mutualistic and individualistic.
For example, giving sexual feedback to your partner, sexual compliments, or moaning in pleasure.
This jot down of shared experience sex talk has been shown to increase sexual and relationshipsatisfaction.
Additionally, women who engage in this mutualistic sex talk even report higher sexual functioning.
In contrast, individualistic sex talk is me focused, Rullo adds.
Examples include, sharing yoursexual fantasy, expressing dominance, submission, or sexual ownership.
And research shows that this individualistic sex talk increases sexual satisfaction, but not relationship satisfaction.
What Makes It So Sexy?
Mutualistic dirty talk is sexy because its a positive bid to connect with your partner.
In a relationship, trust is incredibly sexy, she finishes.
Another factor is what it does to our brains.
Then there’s the appeal of the taboo.
Types of Dirty Talk
Dirty talk can come in various forms too.
These includesexting, role-play/fantasy scenarios, verbal expression, and less-verbal expressions.
A great time to do this can be after sex when you’re relaxed and enjoying some pillow talk.
You could even role-play dirty talk to get a feeling of what its like.
This practice will make experimenting with dirty talk easier during sex, says Rullo.
So what do you do?
Sex is a skill and when we start any skill, we get things wrong, and thats ok!
After all, sex is so much better when you let go of perfectionism, she says.
Be clear of the line between playful nudging and coercion.
Stating that it is best to ask for clarification and consent if this occurs.
What can you see, hear, feel, smell and taste?
Dirty talk works best when its organic and spontaneous, not scripted and rehearsed.
In addition, the use of props could also be used to appeal to the various senses.
Props can add spice and variety to a scenario.
If you are doing a role play, these incorporated props can be used here too.
To take things to the next level, individuals could also experiment with power dynamic play.
For those trying it out for the first time, you might experiment with the dynamic that suits them.
That said, in these scenarios, communication will be key.
After all, nobody is perfect and every sexual encounter is unique.
Therefore, in times like these, you might need to implement some techniques to help defuse the situation.
And to be honest, sometimes you probably will!
You are learning a new skill and that takes time and practice!
Its ok to laugh during sex, or say something like that sounded way sexier in my head!
Also, remember to not get in your head about it too much!
Its moments like these and the ways that we resolve issues that build trust and openness in a relationship.
Its also so helpful to always have a chat after sex because we are not mind readers!
So have some fun, and remember to keep things light and fun!
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