Below, Dr. Daramus shares some examples of deflective behavior.
This shifts the focus of the conversation onto you and lets them off the hook.
Why Do People Deflect?
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People deflect because they dont want to feel bad about themselves or look bad in front of others.
They dont want people to think theyve made a mistake or are at fault in any way.
They want to be liked and looked up to.
They dont want to admiteven to themselvesthat they may have done something wrong.
Aimee Daramus, PsyD
Deflection is about protecting one’s self-image instead of taking responsibility.
Is Deflection a Form of Gaslighting or Abuse?
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