When you’re depressed, unsupportive friends and family can prove trying.
What can you do if the people who should be your greatest supporters aren’t?
Find out which option is the best for you.
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There are lots of reasons that a person may not be able to understand a condition like depression.
Perhaps they grew up in an environment where they were taught that it was unacceptable to show vulnerability.
Or perhaps their thoughts are influenced by the persistent and problematicstigma surrounding mental illness.
Don’t let mental health stigma prevent you from getting the help and support that you need.
Talk to your doctor if you have symptoms of depression.
In other words, pay attention to that inner voice and what it’s saying about you.
Remember, negativity only feeds your depression.
Finding ways to distract yourself can help, as well.
Don’t buy into themisconceptions about depression.
You are not attention-seeking when you ask for help.
No matter what someone else says to you, don’t lose sight of these facts.
It takes a great deal of courage to ask for help.
So, keep asking until you find the right person.
Remind yourself of this fact when people disappoint you or are unable to be there for you.
Try not totake it personallyor assume that they don’t care about you.
Depression support groups, either in person oronline, can be a great place to look.
After all, there is nothing more refreshing than talking with someone who gets what you’re going through.
Don’t hesitate to seek help outside of your family and friends.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
Ask for Help Directly
Don’t be afraid to ask for what you really need.
If there’s something you need or want help with, ask.
If you are specific and direct, you are more likely to get the support you need.
Remember, people cannot read your mind.
Sometimes you have to speak up.
Cut negative people out of your life or find ways to mitigate the damage.
There are going to be some people who, no matter what you do, are mean-spirited and hurtful.
If you could, remove them from your life.
It’s also helpful to vent your frustrations with your counselor or therapist.
They can help you determine the best course of action.
Use your anger with the other person to your benefit.
Ask for help and give them an opportunity to change their behavior.
Other family members, friends, and support groups can be beneficial.
You might also consider talking to a mental health professional.
Create and enforce boundaries with negative family members and venture to limit your contact with those people.
If you are having suicidal thoughts, contact theNational Suicide Prevention Lifelineat988for support and assistance from a trained counselor.
If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.
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