If so, youre not alone.

Some couples who are struggling (perhaps even thinking about divorce) agree to a trial separation.

They hope that spending some time apart might help them come back together in a healthier way.

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But many people argue that spending time apart is bound to break down an already strained relationship.

What Is a Trial Separation?

A trial separation is different from a legal separation.

In a trial separation, its up to the couple to create an informal agreement together.

In addition, most couples:

For some, a trial separation may be a stepping stone toward divorce.

Potential Benefits

Separating on a trial basis could have some benefits for your relationship.

If youve already separated, reach out for help as soon as you might.

If your partner refuses tosee a therapist, see one on your own.

Talking to someone can still be beneficial even if your partner doesnt attend.

Find out which option is the best for you.

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