The desire to alter personality is not uncommon.
Shy people might wish they were more outgoing and talkative.
Hot-tempered individuals might wish they could keep their cool in emotionally charged situations.
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Is it possible to change your personality or are our basic personality patterns fixed throughout life?
But what if you want to change your personality?
The age-oldnature versus nurture debateonce again comes into play.
What Are Your Dominant Traits?
It is those in-between qualities, she believes, that can be changed.
These kids view their intelligence as an unchangeable trait; you either have it or you don’t.
Children who are praised for theirefforts, on the other hand, typically view their intelligence as malleable.
You might even set goals and work toward tackling those potentially problematic traits.
In general, many experts agree that making real and lasting changes to broad traits can be exceedingly difficult.
Here’s how to change your personality if you want to be a better person.
With enough practice, these new patterns of behavior will eventually become second nature.
Challenge Your Self-Beliefs
If you believe you cannot change, then you will not change.
Eventually, these behaviors simply become second nature.
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