But there can also be complications in extrovert-extrovert relationships that are specific to this kind of couple.
Introduction to Extrovert-Extrovert Relationships
First of all, what does it really mean to be an extrovert?
(The term for this range is ambiversion.)
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First of all, you dont have to worry about balancing extremely different needs.
This can make it easier to plan events and maintain the social life that you need.
This understanding also makes it easier tocompromisewhen it comes to social situations.
Challenges of Extrovert-Extrovert Relationships
Just like any relationship, extrovert-extrovert partnerships can have their challenges.
This might be overlooked in an extrovert-extrovert relationship.
You might also take your partners social battery for granted.
Just because youre both extroverted doesnt mean that your needs and preferences will always be exactly the same.
In addition, personal space might become an issue.
Just because you generally both enjoy others company doesnt mean personal space isnt important.
Spending 24/7 together can cause problems in any relationship, extroverted or not.
Your social habitsor your partnersmight also cause problems.
Social situations can become competitive.
With both of you being so sociable, its easy to unwittingly turn sociality into a competition.
Communication is also an important factor in a relationship that can be overlooked.
Another challenge, according to Renteria, has to do with attention.
Open communication makes it clear to both you and your partner what each of you needs from the other.
But this isnt very healthy.
Remember that you and your partner are individuals.
Remind your partner that you might occasionally need different things or need to spend time with different people.
It is always important to maintain individuality!
You are a whole person regardless of your relationship status, explains Amy Marschall, PsyD.
Be mindful and intentional about taking time for yourself.
Its also important to establish and maintainrelationships outside of your romantic partnership.
No one person can be everything for their partner.
This makes it even more important to have friends and loved ones outside of your romantic relationship.
It’s important for each partner to have their own social group and activities separate from their partner.
But even the biggest social butterflies can get burnt out.
Its important to remember to schedule down time, both together with your partner and individually.
This lessens the likelihood that you will burn the candle at both ends and wear yourselves out.
A rested extrovert is a happy extrovert.
After all, extroverts tend to gain energy in social interactions rather than losing it, says Marschall.
Try not to blame or resent the other person for their needs.
Just because you are both extroverted does not mean you are exactly the same.
There are a few things you’ve got the option to do when conflicts arise.
First, try usingI statementsto explain how you are feeling.
You could say something like:
Statements like these can open up a conversation with less acrimony and bias.
Practicesharing your feelingsand needs with your partner.
This will make it easier to talk about things, whether they be small inconveniences or big relationship-upsetting problems.
Learn to listen to, understand, and validate your partner.
Remember:
Final Thoughts
Two extroverts can make a great couple.
They share a love of and comfort with social situations that can make them good fun to have around.
But through open communication, building a strong extroverted relationship is possible and even easy.
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