It’s easier than you think
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We’ve all been in this exact situation.
And for some people, thats awkward.
Going to an event where you don’t know anyone can be an overwhelming and uncomfortable experience.
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And it’s easier than you think!
So why is talking to people you dont know at an event so different?
Many of these sensations can be linked to thefight, flight or freezeresponses, notes Lurie.
Make Light of the Situation
You know youre anxious.
And you know youre probably not alone.
Why not use it as a way to break the ice?
have a go at be open about your anxiety.
Youll hear sighs of relief from the crowd you didnt expect.
Help the Host
Offering to help at a party or networking event can do a few things.
Just Say Hi!
Try saying something like “Hi!
Odds are they will welcome you into the conversation with enthusiasm.
Set Realistic Goals
Dont go in expecting to be the life of the party.
But if its a networking event, maybe decide youll connect with at least two people while youre there.
Perhaps your goal is to spend an hour at the event and interact during that time.
Think of a few topics that interest you, or that you are knowledgeable about.
Consider ways you cancasually start conversationsor integrate these ideas into a discussion.
If youre stuck, read on for several ideas that can help.
Casual Conversation Starters
1.
Are you having fun?
Are you listening to any good podcasts that you’ve got the option to recommend?
Do you play or watch any sports?
Have you seen any good movies lately?
Have you traveled recently?
Whats your favorite place you visited?
Hi Im (your name).
How did you find out about this event?
(works well if a networking event)
8.
How do you know (bride, groom, guest of honor)?
How was your week?
Im looking for something new to read.
What books do you recommend?
What are the best local restaurants in this area?
What brings you here?
Whats your favorite kind of food?
Where are you from?
Conversation Starters for Meaningful Conversations
1.
Anything new on the horizon for you?
Can you name five things on your bucket list?
Have you ever thought of an invention that could make your life easier?
How did you get started in your career?
If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you want to go and why?
Is there a habit you want to change or work on?
Tell me more about yourself.
What does an average day look like for you?
What is something youre looking forward to these days?
What is the best thing youve learned recently?
How did it impact you?
What kinds of things do you like to do when youre not at work?
What is the perfect gift that someone could give to you?
What would you want to pursue if you had the time?
Whats one goal youre working towards?
When are you the happiest?
Where do you see yourself in five years?
Which of your accomplishments are you proudest of?
Fun Conversation Starters
1.
Are you acat or a dog person?
Comment on the music playing, i.e.
This music takes me back or I love 90s music.
Do you have any pets?
Tell me about them!
Do you think you would like to be famous?
How do you feel about attending events like this?
If you could be any superhero, who would you be?
If you could create your own superpower, what would it be?
If you had a million dollars, what would you buy?
Is this as awkward for you as it is for me?
Tell me your biggest pet peeve.
Tell us your funniest story.
Do you play a musical instrument?
What song do you wish theyd play next?
Whats your favorite dessert?
(you could also start by saying, Am I the only chocolate lover here?)
Where did you get your earrings/belt/outfit/purse?
Which do you hate more being really hot or being really cold?
Which holiday do you like the most?
- Who is your favorite celebrity and why?
Having a few surefire conversation starters can help put you more at ease.
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