Our Reader Asks
I have struggled with low self-esteem for a really long time.
Sometimes, I dont think I have what it takes to succeed in life.
But I know that attitude isnt helpful.
Verywell / Catherine Song
What can I do to start feeling better about myself?
Amy’s Answer
Youre smart to want to address self-esteem issues.
When we believe something, we constantly look for evidence that our belief is true.
The problem with feeling bad about yourself is that it can hold you back in life.
Here are a few strategies to try.
For this reason, its important to evaluate the people around you.
Are you surrounding yourself with people who put you down, even if subtly?
Take a look at your physical environment too.
Do youlive in a cluttered, crowded space?
Perhaps a messy place reinforces to you that you arent worthy of living in a neat environment.
It may feel uncomfortable at first but as your self-esteem improves, itll get easier.
Recap
Some people unintentionally create an environment that reinforces their low self-esteem.
Utilize Positive, Supportive Self-Talk
Monitor theconversations you have with yourself.
Chances are, youd likely offer compassionate words of encouragement.
Butself-compassion can be key to helping you feel betterabout yourself.
Do your best and look people in the eye!"
Changing your inner dialogue can shift your mindset over time.
Your brain will begin to recognize that youre more capable and competent than you give yourself credit for.
Its also important to change your behavior.
A common therapy strategy is to “act as if.”
So in this case, it would be to act as if you felt confident.
Ask yourself, “What would a confident person do right now?”
It might be as simple as shaking hands, introducing yourself, or volunteering to go first.
Take that action now.
You don’t have to wait until you feel confident to get out there and do it.
see to it youre doing things that help you feel good in the big picture, too.
Try new things, meet different people, andchallenge yourself in healthy ways.
And feeling good about yourself is the key to reaching your greatest potential and living your best life.
Find out which option is the best for you.
Summary
Having astrong sense of self-esteemis important for your well-being.
Take steps to confirm your surroundings and the people in your life help support your sense of self-worth.
Treat yourself with the same kindness and encouragement that you would a close friend.
Also, work on acting confidently even if you don’t feel confident in the moment.
Finally, consider talking to a mental health professional about your self-esteem issues.
2017;86(4):619-630. doi:10.1111/jopy.12340
