Some neurodivergent people do not have family support, and relatives mightpush boundariesor make unfeasible demands.
Many, especially neurodivergent individuals, report thatholiday stresstakes a toll on their mental health.
Autistic folks,ADHDers, and those with various mental health diagnoses can benefit from structure and predictability.
Of course, if you are enjoying yourself, you’re able to choose to make adjustments.
This can remove some of the unpredictability and unease that can come with holiday routine disruptions.
Knowing what to expect is comforting.
This is particularly true forautistic individuals, but other neurodivergent individuals feel this way as well.
Just like any other time of year, holiday schedules can get thrown off.
Illness, weather, or other changes in plan can disrupt your carefully crafted calendar of events.
For those who thrive on knowing what to expect, having a predetermined backup plan can reduce distress.
Pace Yourself
During this time of year, there tends to be a lot going on.
You might enjoy and look forward to many holiday events.
At the same time, though, some neurodivergent people become drained or worn down by too much activity.
All activities take energy, including (and sometimes especially) events we really enjoy.
It is sometimes easier to overdo something enjoyable because we are more tempted to push ourselves to keep going.
A great way to ration your holiday energy is to include breaks andtime for restin your holiday schedule.
People can be very attached to their traditions and their idea of what should happen during the holidays.
You are always allowed toset boundariesand limits.
You are allowed tosay no, and you are allowed to choose how you engage with the holiday season.
Need a Break?
You are not being too much by asking for what you need.
Of course, others might not be able or willing to meet a specific need.
I often say, I cannot control what anyone else does.
I can only control what I do.
Communicateyour needs clearly ahead of time.
Remember that youcanchoose to set a boundary and not attend an event where your needs will not be met.
What are your needs in this situation?
How can you get them met safely if you do not have support?
Remember to take care of yourself first.
Dont Explain Yourself
No is a complete sentence.
A simple Im sorry, but I will be unable to attend is all you need.
Similarly, I dont want to go is sufficient reason to choose not to attend.
Sometimes, peoplepush back on boundaries.
Family especially might feel it is appropriate to ask for your reasoning.
If someone is not respecting your no, deception is a valid way to protect yourself.
If someone is not respecting your ‘no,’ deception is a valid way to protect yourself.
Choose a date after your final holiday event, and make plans for something you really want to do.
This can be an activity or event, or it can be a day of rest.
When you find yourself struggling, think ahead to that event.
The holidays are particularly exhausting for neurodivergent communities.
Use these tips to make your holidays more neurodivergent-friendly and help youcopeduring this time.
