This bang out of relationship may work effectively for many reasons.
How does one enter into a marriage of convenience?
In these cases, you and your S.O.
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stay together because it is easier than separating.
Whatever the reason, the motivation isn’t rooted in romantic love or emotional intimacy.
You may have a passionate love that fades out to comfort and security.
Or, a steady and reliable connection that gained passion over time.
Either of these relationships can work as long as both partners are satisfied.
Below, we examine the top indicators that your marriage may not be aligned with your highest self.
She adds that the opinions of your family and loved ones can make it harder to leave.
“Spending quality time togetheror having similar hobbies builds connection in a relationship,” Finkel says.
Remember, no relationship stays the same.
Sometimes, you and your partner are in a dry spot and are busy with life obligations.
When you arent in a satisfying relationship, the opposite takes place.
You need more emotional support or intimacy that your partner is not providing, which can hurt the relationship.
For example, you married your high school sweetheart and instead of growing together, you grew apart.
Part of growth is the hope that the relationship strengthens because of it, although it does break some.
That said, relationships don’t work well if everything stays the same.
Ideally, your relationship is adaptable enough to flow with the inevitable changes of life.
“At least we know what to expect and how to deal with it.”
Youre committed to growing alongside each other, she says.
You champion each others growth and values, and feel grateful for them.
When a partner doesnt care about the quality of the relationship, it shows up as apathy.
They ignore, avoid, and tell you they wont work on it, she adds.
Is the Love Gone or Is It Different?
However, that doesn’t mean that your partner doesn’t love you or the relationship.
Furthermore, not every relationship fits the traditional or sensationalizednotions of romantic love.
If this setup meets everyone’s needs and feels satisfying in the long run, go for it.
Just be certain youre not settling for something you don’t want or need.
Good enough is good enough.
Thats a fine choice.
When we fall in love, we accept each other for who we are.
But it’s impossible to expect we will stay the same.
However, speaking about your issues shows you care about the relationship and yourself.
She recommends sharing your feelings and worries out loud.
you could even tell your partner youre scared about the conversation.
Being vulnerable and open about your emotions is never a bad thing.
Its not uncommon for people in a relationship to feel differently," says Montague.
“One person may want to move on; the other doesnt.
You cant control the other persons experience of the relationship.
“Sometimes, we convince ourselves that these relationships are worth the compromises they take,” she says.
Help and Support
Ending a relationship, especially a long-term one, is tough.
But with the right support, you’ll process lessons learned, persevere, heal, and bounce back.
Montague recommends sharing your feelings with your friends and family, particularly those who have had long-lasting relationships.
Their unique experiences will help you properly grieve the relationship and eventually find closure.
Hold onto hope that you will get through it,” she says.
Keep in Mind
The person we marry is one of the most important decisions we can make.
Remember to think carefully about your partner and the relationship you want.
Make the decision count.
Apostolou, M., Christoforou, C., & Lajunen, T. J.
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