Sometimes youre just not “fine.”
Heres how to say so.
But what if someone greets you with an innocuous How are you?
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Heres what to say if you arent OK, with tips for a variety of situations.
Its fair to assume that someone close to you asking you How are you?
is genuinely interested in a response.
In that case, a simple How are you?
might launch the door to a conversation that you feel ready for.
Acknowledge how youre feeling and ask if its alright to share whats been going on with you.
Chances are, your loved one would like to know.
Don’t be afraid toshow your vulnerabilityand allow a loved one to provide a much-needed shoulder to lean on.
So how do you stay true to your feelings without gritting your teeth and saying Fine?
Another option is to quickly acknowledge how youre feeling but then put the spotlight on them.
Having asupport systemis importantif you might, talk to a friend or family member about how youre feeling.
Find out which option is the best for you.
Remember that you have options.
So the next time someone asks How are you?
youll be prepared no matter what.
