An Abuse of Power
What Is Domestic Discipline?
Some use hair brushes, paddles, and the like to “discipline” their wives.
Many psychologists consider domestic discipline a form of deviant behavior.
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The HoH typically controls all decisions and, often,the purse strings.
Should she forget or disobey, he will hurt her in some way as punishment.
Domestic discipline communicates that the wife deserves punishment for mistakes and transgressions.
These beliefs are in line with what most abusive partners assert: that she brought it upon herself.
Where Does It Come From?
What the Research Says
Domestic discipline claims stand in stark contrast to research findings.
Here are a few examples.
For example, those who practice domestic discipline often cite passages that call for wifely submission.
In fact, many Christian churches teach mutual respect and egalitarian relationships.
Domestic Discipline or Domestic Abuse?
Is It Abuse?
These and othersigns of abuseborder on indistinguishable from common practices in domestic discipline.
Here’s a quick comparison.
Entitlement
Supporters of this lifestyle typically argue that Scripture gives men the authority to discipline their wives.
Victim-Blaming
Offenders often blame the offended to neutralize guilt.
In this way, the focus shifts to what thevictimsupposedly did.
Many domestic-discipline relationships are so extreme that even the slightest infractions are excuses for discipline.
Condemnation
Offenders shift the blame from themselves to others who disapprove of their actions.
They claim that society is corrupt and that any beliefs contrary to theirs are the reasons for failing marriages.
Meanwhile, nearly 20 people of any gender are abused by a partner every minute.
If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.
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