There are lots of things you could point tocommon interests, similar personalities, shared experiences.
But theres one thing that no long-term friendship can ever be without:boundaries.
Read on to learn more about how boundaries keep a friendship healthy and lasting.
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What Are Boundaries?
For example, just do not call me after 9 p.m. is not technically a boundary but a request.
If you call after 9 p.m.
I will not answer, and you will get a response when I am available is a boundary.
Its also important to be aware and respectful of the other persons boundaries yourself.
Boundaries are so important!
They are how we let people know what we need to be in a relationship with them.
My friend laughed when I told her this, and we moved on.
However, after lunch, I received a text from my friend.
I immediately understood my mistake and assured her this would never happen again.
This is a prime example of how boundaries should work in a friendship.
If this exchange had not occurred, this most certainly would have affected our friendship.
Speaking up and reinforcing those boundaries was the best thing she could have done in this situation.
All this to say, setting boundaries will do wonders for your friendships.
Instead, she launched an assault.
The easiest way to figure out your friends boundaries is by asking questions.
You could say:
Whats the best way to establish and maintain boundaries?
If you feel comfortable, you might decide to give a reason for the boundary.
Final Thoughts
When it comes to lasting friendships, boundaries are key.
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