But don’t let a fear of saying the wrong thing prevent you from reaching out!
Waiting for the perfect words could keep you from seizing the opportunity to change a life.
For many domestic abuse victims, the world can be lonely, isolated, and filled with fear.
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Sometimes, reaching out and telling them you are there for them can provide tremendous relief.
Supporting someone who is a victim of domestic violence requiresempathy, patience, and a willingness to listen.
It’s not about trying to force them to accept specific solutions.
Instead, your goal is to empower them to take steps to regain control.
For more mental health resources, see ourNational Helpline Database.
Use the nine tips that follow to help you support someone in this vulnerable situation.
Getting involved when tempers are flaring can put you in danger.
Also, verify to set aside plenty of time in case the victim decides to open up.
Both can besigns of abuse.
Let the person know that you will be discreet about any information disclosed.
Take it slow and easy.
Just let the person know that you are available and offering a sympathetic ear.
Chances are if you actively listen, the person will tell you exactly what they need.
Just give the person the full opportunity to talk.
You may be the first person in which the victim has confided.
If you or a loved one are in immediate danger, call 911.
Many times, others are shocked to learn that a person they know could commit violence.
Consequently, victims often feel that no one would believe them if they told people about the violence.
Believe the victim’s story and say so.
Tell the victim that violence and abuse aren’t part ofhealthy relationships.
Without judging, confirm to them that their situation is dangerous and that you are concerned for their safety.
Here are a few reasons why it’s not easy to part ways.
Offer Specific Support for Your Loved One
Help the victim find support and resources.
Look up telephone numbers for shelters, social services, attorneys, counselors, or support groups.
If available, offer brochures or pamphlets about domestic violence.
you’re free to search state by state for legal information onWomensLaw.org.
If you are unable to, attempt to find other ways the need can be met.
The important thing is to let them know that you are there for them, available at any time.
Just let them know the best way to reach you if help is needed.
If possible, offer to go along for moral support to the police, court, or lawyers office.
Let the person know they are not alone and help is available.
Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at18007997233for immediate assistance and a referral to nearby counseling services or support groups.
If you hear or see physical abuse taking place, call the police.
The police are the most effective way to remove the immediate danger to the victim and their children.
There are no situations in which children should be left in a violent situation.
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