A good question to ask for clarification is: “Would you prefer comfort or solutions right now?”
It also validates what your partner is telling you.
When theyve finished telling you something, it’s possible for you to summarize what they’ve said.
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It shows that youre taking an interest and you want to be on the same page.
Because, to your partner, it is a big deal.
and “Is it okay if I give you a hug?”
Different people like different levels ofphysical affectionat different times.
Make it clear that you love them, youre there for them, and you care for them.
Challenges take time to be processed and navigated so your partner will likely need follow up care and support.
The dynamic should never feel one-sided."
It is important you arelooking after yourself too, of course.
“It’s ok to share your own emotions when someone is sharing with you,” explains Cabarcas.
“Just keep in mind not to compare or one-up.
If you are feeling down, it’s ok to say it.
Also, being supportive does not mean completely neglecting your own feelings.
But overall, sharing feelings with a partner is beneficial.
This might be where non-verbal methods of supporting your partner come in.
Or, you might be getting overwhelmed with everything they tell you.
At this point, external help may be beneficial.
But how can you go aboutsuggesting your partner goes to therapy?
Dr. Touroni explains: “Choose a private spacesomewhere theyll be comfortable and where you wont be disturbed.
Talk about your own experiences if youve had therapy before.
Be validating and compassionatemention that youve noticed that they havent been acting themselves.
Make it clear that youre only sharing this because you care about them.
Give them space to talk about how theyre feeling, if they want to.
Offer your support in finding the right therapist.”
This goes a long way in establishing security and comfort in any relationship.”
Different things will resonate with different people and what works for your partner might not work for somebody else.
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