After all,breakupssuck regardless of who ended things.
“Breakups are so challenging.
Maybe you resort to drowning your sorrows with food or drinks.
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Or, maybe it’s possible for you to’t stop blaming yourself for everything that went wrong.
Part of the healing process is acknowledging how you feel andallowing yourself to grieve.
“We dont talk enough about losses that arent death.
This process is essential if you are coming out of a long-term relationship.
Not taking the time to acknowledge your feelings and heal can create further problems.
Sometimes, a traumatic breakup can trigger depression in some people or reignite a mental health issue.
“Sometimes people need to cut that person off for a period of time so you can heal.
It can be helpful to remove reminders of them from your home.
Return anything that belongs to them if you want, or donate it to charity.
The choice is yours.
But recognize that having reminders of your ex that are easily accessible is going to impede your progress.
So, do yourself a favor and at the very least put it in storage.
It also can be painful tooif you see your ex with a new partner.
You may even want to block them from seeing your posts and updates.
The fewer connections you have to one another the easier it will be to move on.
Find Closure
Sometimes cutting off all contact is not enough to help you move on.
Sometimes, you need what people often refer to as closure.
The key is that you find closure for the relationship in a healthy way.
Just don’t mail it or send it to them.
Plus, if you end up sending an emotional letter, you may end up regretting it later.
Instead, write the letter more for yourself.
Healing may be helped by recognizing that time was not wasted,” she notes.
Take some time and write down everything that bothers you about your ex.
Include big things and little things.
you might also include little pet peeves like having bad table manners or being a slob.
Take Care of Yourself
The key to feeling better after a breakup is rooted incaring for yourself.
It also may help to pamper yourself a little bit, too.
Hold off on making drastic changes, however.
Instead, focus on things that will make you feel better without doing anything irreversible or permanent.
Think about things that bring you joy and make a run at incorporate them into your life.
Evita Limon-Rocha, MD, Kaiser Permanente
Breakups can be an opportunity for growth and self-exploration.
Dr. Limon-Rocha also recommends focusing on gratitude practices.
“Engaging in gratitude exercises can be a highly therapeutic reminder of what is going well.
Instead, make a goal to connect with other people.
Take the time to call family and friends.
Even reach out to spend time together.
Never underestimate thepower of laughingand doing something fun with people who love and support you.
Likewise, talking to supportive people about the breakup can be somewhat cathartic.
So, ideally you have a friend or family member you could talk to.
If you don’t, then consider talking to a counselor instead.
So have a go at be a good friend in the midst of your crisis.
It’s the perfect opportunity to make up for lost time.
Instead, learn what you’re free to from the relationship, but keep moving forward.
You are closer to healing and moving on with each step you take.
Recognize that your mission now is to accept that the relationship is over.
Be patient with yourself, though.
Healing after a breakup is not a quick fix.
It takes some time for your heart to catch up with the reality of the situation.
But you will get there as long as you keep working on it.
How exactly you go about doing that is entirely up to you.
The key is that you make a concerted effort to move on.
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