If you are unfamiliar with the term “biromantic,” this may feel confusing for you.
People who are biromantic experience romantic attraction to people of multiple genders.These feelings are independent of theirsexual orientation.
The Biromantic Basics
It’s crucial to understand that there’s no blueprint for biromanticism.
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Still, Biromanticism Is Rarely Obvious
There’s no clear-cut way to determine whether you are biromantic.
While I dated men, I often had what I now recognize to be inappropriate relationships with women.
I felt a lot of confusion about my wants and desires.
I often doubted myself, thinking there was something wrong with me.
It didn’t feel natural to be so romantically attracted to women.
One night I did an internet deep dive.
I went down a rabbit hole of Reddit threads and many online forums and discovered the term ‘biromantic.’
It was like a light bulb came on in my head; everything suddenly made sense.
It was just so eerily familiar but, at the same time, incredibly validating.
I was quick to embrace being biromantic, and it has been ajourney of self-discovery and self-acceptancesince then.
Dating is less confusing now but a lot harder.
I venture to be upfront about who I am; sometimes, people don’t understand.
They make me feel selfish or indecisive.
Thankfully I’ve found a sense of belonging and connection with other people who share my experiences.
I’ve realized that my romantic orientation is valid and part of who I am.
I’ve also learned the importance of self-compassion and self-love in embracing my romantic identity."
Uchechi isn’t alone.
Establish and respect personal boundaries.Doing this in your relationship is the next most critical thing.
Create a safe space to share your feelings openly and without judgment.
This knowledge can help you both better understand and navigate your relationship.
Read books, attend workshops, or join support groups to understand biromantic experiences and challenges better.
Practice patience and understanding.
Embrace and celebrate your biromantic identity, both individually and as a couple.
Be open and honest with your partner about your feelings, experiences, and concerns.
Demonstrating vulnerability and transparency can help build a solid foundation of trust and understanding in your relationship.
Where Can You Find Resources?
Here are the best places to find information on biromanticism.
Encourage your friends and family members to becomealliesto learn more about biromanticism and support the community.
Yes, you’re free to be biromantic and asexual.
Biromantic people experience romantic attraction to multiple genders, while asexual people do not experience sexual attraction.
Supporting a biromantic friend or family member involves being understanding, empathetic, and nonjudgmental.
Listen to their experiences, validate their feelings, and educate yourself about biromanticism.
UNC-Chapel Hill LGBTQ Center.Asexuality, attraction, and romantic orientation.
Vanderbilt faculty & staff health and wellness.Establishing effective personal boundaries
Princeton Gender + Sexuality Resource Center.Split attraction model
