Who has the energy, right?
But being in tune with your body (and partner) doesn’t have to be overly complicated.
It’s a nice fantasy, but this doesnt always happen in reality.
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Remember, it’s OK to forgo sex when you are not in the mood.
Low libido is complex, and there are many reasons you might think you’re not in the mood.
All of this can affect your interest in physical intimacy.
Start by looking into eating a healthier diet and exercising regularly.
Make time for yourself, where you just relax and reconnect with yourself.
Research shows thatexercising regularlycan increase your libido.
Substance usecan pose challenges to sexual functioning as well.
This is especially common with people who have long-term partners.
you might renew your sex lives by trying something neither of you has tried before.
This could be introducing toys into your sex life or roleplaying.
You could also try switching up your environment.
Emotional connection heightens sexual desire.
Scheduling sex ensures that you protect the time to be fully present with your partner.
It also prepares your mind and body for the activity as you take the time to enjoy it.
When you dont get enough sleep, it affects how you operate throughout the day and in the bedroom.
For instance, some people get in the mood for sex by exchanging messages with their partners.
you could start by sending a text of appreciation to your partner first.
Maybe you sendflirty text messagesthroughout the day and see how things go.
Some couples might enjoy engaging in a hot and heavy sexting session some hours before having sex.
You could also try reading or watching something erotic.
Relax and touch yourselves in the places that you like to be touched.
If you’re inspired, you might invite your partner to join you at any point.
Having sex at night when you have a particularly busy life can seem tedious.
Instead, make time for some morning sex for the next couple of weeks.
Takeaways
Its perfectly normal to sometimes not be in the mood for sex.
Dont pressure yourself when you do this.
Take your time to explore your sexuality either by yourself or with your partner.
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