These topics might signal a red flag or sour your date.
Along the way, its important to make good conversation and steer clear of certain topics.
Not sure whats off-limits?
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Heres what not to talk about on a first date.
A first date allows you to determine if you have chemistry or things in common.
If you dont, be courteous during the date and dont plan another one.
on a first date, it is way too much too soon.
Relationships take time to develop, so lean into those early stages versus jumping the gun.
Blame rarely comes in a 100 to 0 ratio.
Talking about sex or your sexual history…can sabotage the relationship, Dr. Trotter says.
Sex is very personal for most people and discussing it on a first date is ared flag.
Feel it out and dont push boundaries if your date feels uncomfortable with the topic.
Asking questions leads to a natural conversation flow and allows you two to get to know each other better.
Be curious about this new person sitting in front of you.
Further, make space for them to ask you what they are curious about, too, says Granahan.
Susan Trotter, PhD.
And of course, the alternative is true.
Negativity [may] attract negativity.
Sometimes people use trauma dumping as a way to create quick intimacy, Scott says.
Both scenarios may signal a red flag to the other.
They want to be there and they are feeling excitement about the potential of this interaction.
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