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Its tough when you are feeling unappreciated.
When you feel this way, it may seem as though youre being taken for granted.
And when people dont seem to notice, you might feel as though youre efforts are overlooked and undervalued.
Verywell / Catherine Song
If youre not careful,feeling unappreciatedcan lead to feelings of resentment and anger.
Not everyone uses words to express theirgratitude.
You might discover that theyre likely more grateful for you than you give them credit for.
And they might forget to appreciate all you do for them.
So it may be helpful to say “no” sometimes.
Saying “no” sometimes can also be good for you if youve become a bit of apeople pleaser.
There may also be times when you decide to set limits.
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You might have a chance to learn new skills or sharpen existing oneslike patience.
You also might get a chance to exercise or time to be in the car by yourself.
But saying “thank you” to those around you might inspire others to appreciate you too.
Thank your friends and family for all they do for you.
Whatever way you choose to show your appreciation, make it genuine and heartfelt.
Reframe Negative Thoughts
Be on the lookout for exaggeratedlynegative thoughts.
And remind yourself of times when you have been able to put limits on what you do.
Responding to your unhelpful thoughts with more realistic ones can help you feel a little more appreciated.
Speak Up
Sometimes, its helpful to share how youre feeling.
I really enjoy it when my work is appreciated.
Dont be afraid to say what you want.
Just remember, some people make jokes when theyre uncomfortable.
Talk to a Professional
If you chronically feel unappreciated, your relationships will likely suffer.
You may want to talk to a licensed mental health professional about how youre feeling.
A therapist may recommend family therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, or other services to help you feel better.
Find out which option is the best for you.
Frequently Asked Questions
Feeling unappreciated means that you feel that other people don’t value you.
It can be helpful to reframe how you feel about the situation.
Feeling unappreciated can leave a person questioning their own value.
In relationships, it can leave people wondering if their partner actually cares.
It can undermine self-esteem and contribute to conflict.
In the workplace, it can impair motivation, commitment, and productivity.
A Word From Verywell
Everyone feels unappreciated at one time or another.
Sometimes, its best to give people a break for not expressing their gratitude.
At other times, it can be helpful to address the situation head-on by talking to people around you.
